Single Parenting Is Not For Sissies

I never thought I would say this, but I am becoming  a Kate Gosselin fan. I find myself defending her to the talk show hosts that are grilling her for leaving her 8 kids at home while she dances.  “She is trying to keep a roof over her kids head!” (a million dollar roof, but still) I yell at the TV. ” Who else is going to buy shoes for little Hannah and Aiden?”  I feel a little of her pain.  It is a dilemma  I wasn’t really prepared for; work  three jobs to pay the mortgage and the college tuition bill, or be at home to be sure my kids have a home cooked meal and are not  looking at porn.  Then There is the dilemma of   having enough energy to parent  when I am finally home after working multiple jobs.  Take last week for example. I Left the house with mom guilt because Cameron had to get up, dressed, fed, and on the bus by himself.  Later that day, more mom guilt because I didn’t have pizza sauce in the house for CJ to make the dinner I had asked him to make.  I  Got home about 8:00pm after stopping at the grocery store to get the pizza sauce and every  other comfort food/ impulse buy that I could fit into my cart.  By the time I got home, I was even too tired to eat one of Carter’s amazing  pizza’s.  I finally collapsed on the bed around 9:00pm when I hear from the other room..”Mom, will you work me out?”  What came out of my mouth was, “Sure, I would love to!”  What was going through my mind went something like this….You have got to be freakin kidding me!  It is 9:00pm! Do you have any idea what I have done today for you to be able to wear those third world, $60.00 shoes ?(don’t get me wrong, I still  support the TOMS shoes cause) I have been training people since 6:00am, fixing well pumps, pool pumps,  and any other kind of pump that can break.  Not to mention  dealing with disgruntled tennis players and distraught parents of kids I didn’t hire for the summer.  But sure, I would love to work you out.  As I drug myself up the stairs to the gym (which ironically was going to be my contribution to college but still allow me to be home with the kids)  I thought, enjoy this Suzi, he’s gonna be gone before you blink.  I don’t say all that to whine about all I have to do in a day. OK, maybe I did. But what I am trying to say is,  single parenting is not for sissies.  It’s hard being the sole provider and at the same time, the soul provider.  So, I get Kate Gosselin.  She is doing what she can with the opportunities she has been given to provide for her kids,  and somehow still be there enough to be a decent mom.  It’s a tight rope walk I didn’t anticipate or prepare for; but since no one is asking me to  Dance with the Stars, I guess I will just keep walking it.


About splitpease

I am a mom of three teenage boys who used to be a teacher, who became a personal trainer, who had to sell my share of a personal training studio, who had to take a job running a swim and racquet club, who hopes to one day be able to do what I love and still keep a roof over my head.
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